Keep things in perspective and prioritise – it can feel overwhelming when we are juggling so much, but taking a pause and putting the different aspects your life in order or priority can help in taking the pressure off. When push comes to shove, kids and family are #1, everything else can wait.
It can often seem easier said than done, but instead of viewing everything going on in your life as one big overwhelming mass, try and calmly look at each aspect of your life: work, family, finances etc, and ask yourself ‘what is the most important thing now?’.
Rate things that you need to do in order of importance and tackle the top couple first – one at a time. Give yourself permission to come back to the other things on the list another time, it should help keep your stress levels down.
Take time out
Take some time each day/week to just ‘be’ by yourself, when the noise around and demands on you are deliberately put to one side, you can let your mind just rest and recover a little. Have a think about what that special ‘you time’ might be like, what you might do. Perhaps it’s a walk, taking in some fresh air and greenery, maybe it’s an exercise class, a mindfulness or yoga session, or perhaps a lovely warm bubble bath with a good book? Whatever it might be, have fun deciding what it is you’d like to do to mentally recharge, make any arrangements to ensure the kids are looked after while you’re relaxing, and most importantly, enjoy it guilt free!
Don’t people please
Catch yourself being a ‘yes’ person to all and sundry. Put you and your family first and don’t run yourself ragged pleasing everyone else’s requests before fulfilling your own needs first. We all often get pulled in various directions, ‘can we do this?’, ‘would you mind doing that?’ Being kind and helpful is a wonderful quality, and one we should definitely embrace and demonstrate, BUT not to the detriment of our own mental and emotional health. Practice saying ‘no’ from time to time, or perhaps even start with ‘not right now’, or ‘can I let you know’. It can help calm down any pressure to say ‘yes’ to everything and everyone which can affect our stress and anxiety levels.
Create family time
Put aside some time to spend as a family. Ditch the phones and any distractions and plan time for just you and the kids. It’ll do you all wonders, alleviate any parent guilt, and boost the happy hormones. Family time is lacking across the country in general, and spending time together doesn’t have to cost the earth, in fact the nicest memories are often made with the least expense. Walks, making sofa ‘camps’, going to the park, painting, baking, a movie and popcorn… as long as it’s together, that’s all that matters.
Talk it out
If you’re finding things too much, don’t bottle the feelings and thoughts up, talk to your partner, a mate, a boss, and tell them what’s going on for you. It can be the best way to get any stress out. We all have moments when things just get on top of us, it can feel really hard to know what to say sometimes, but do think of someone you trust to talk to. Sharing any niggles as they first happen can really help in making sure they don’t fester and turn into something much bigger.