Have you ever been snubbed by the parents of another child because of something your child has done?
My just-turned 3-year-old had an altercation at his pre-school recently where one of the the other boys in the class was shouting, which was hurting his ears so he punched him in order to get him to ‘shut up’. On arrival to pick him up that day I was told at the gate that my son had hit another boy, the teacher explained that my son was told off, put in ‘Time Out’ and then made to apologise, but I was very concerned, as this behaviour was just not like him. I disciplined my son and as far as the nursery and I were both concerned that was the end of the matter.
However, the very next day I waiting to collect my son at the school gate, and the mother of the boy my son had hit, was deliberately ignoring me. I have to admit I felt like a total outcast, as though I had hit the child myself! I can understand how unpopular I might be if my son repeatedly misbehaved and was known to be a bully, but both the nursery and I agree that the incident was totally out of character. I didn’t know what to do, perhaps I should have spoken to her, but all of a sudden, I felt like the the outcast in the playground, and it took me right back to my own school days.
I by no means condone the actions of my child, but I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect that once a toddler has been reprimanded, that should be the end of the matter. He is only 3 after all.
Have you ever been snubbed by another parent in the playground?