Are you a mum who wears lots of hats and constantly feels like you have so much to juggle that you may even have dropped some balls? I often hear this from my clients who are feeling overwhelmed by the amount of work that they have to do and how little time they have, wishing that the days would expand so they could fit more into their days.
About a year ago I was reflecting on whether I could replace juggling with something else? As what I know of great jugglers is they have to really train for hours to ensure that they don’t drop the balls. They focus intensely to ensure that they put on a good show. The more balls and plates that they juggle, the more skilled they have to have become to not drop them.
Have you ever considered that you can actually replace juggle with flow? Regardless if you have or haven’t, you can do so by..
Prioritising: What I have got to see is that juggling is another way of saying that I want to do it all and fit it in. But what hides behind the juggle? I discovered that what hides behind the notion of juggle is have to’s, and should’s versus wants and priorities. By this point habitual thought patterns take over and you think you need to do all the things you need to do and you keep saying yes to everything.
Saying NO!:Saying no to activities that you don’t want to do can free up a lot of your time. In fact, you can chose what you want to take on and say no to the things you don’t want to do or even decide you want to delegate the work to someone else. If the priority is you, then you can always reflect on whether the decision you are making is in fact making you the priority. Remember as a mum, if you are taking care of yourself, everything externally will take care of itself.
Asking For Help: I have often found that my clients find this a real challenge for themselves. They think they need to do everything and find it hard to ask for help because they don’t want to impose or because they don’t want to be a burden or fear rejection. However, you will be amazed, what happens if you just ask. People want to help.
Deepening Your Understanding of What Creates Your Feelings. So what gets in the way or prioritizing, saying no or asking for help? This comes from a simple misunderstanding, which stipulates that our feelings come from external factors and other people. The truth is that our feelings can only ever come from one place only – the principle of thought taking form in this very moment.
Your feelings are not an indication of what will happen in the future or what has happened in the past or how you will make others feel if you say no or ask for help. So fear, guilt or stress is just an indication that you are in those moods and that is now what colours everything you see. The feelings don’t tell you anything about what you are looking at or even thinking about.
The implications of this means you can make choices that really serve you. The very recognition that what you experience is only ever created from the inside regardless of what is going on externally means you can align yourself with how life really works, which aligns you with the flow of life. IN short, you can fall out of your habitual thinking and see something new and experience a more profound space where stillness resides.
Expanding Time: WHAT? Expanding time? Yes. Have you experienced your time going by excruciatingly slowly and then speeding up? Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why this is so? The simple reason for this is that time will speed up or slow depending on whether you have much on your mind or not. I often find that when my head is quiet that I experience my time expanding, as opposed to when my mind is all revved up and I am panicking. Have you found the same?
Creating internal space can allow you to be more productive and give you the sense that there is actually more time on your hands. How you create the peace inside? By looking in the direction of what is creating your experience as the aforementioned point indicates. Going inside and going into quiet contemplation can herald a new sense of space and presence, which takes you back into the flow.
In short, becoming more present to the moment that you are in will take away the illusion of the juggle and have you step into the flow of live effortlessly.
By Marina Pearson.
Marina Pearson is an Effortless Business and Lifestyle Coach who lives in Spain with her husband and son. She is a best selling author and an international speaker. For more info on how you can live and work effortlessly www.marinapearson.com