Top 5 Simplest Self-Care Tricks to Beat Overwhelm

Motherhood these days is, let’s face it, a juggling act. Multi-tasking – a must! Most of us have probably had days where we feel completely overwhelmed. But how good are we at noticing when this is happening and taking preventative measures to stop it becoming too much? Suzy Reading, mum of two, specialises in self-care and helps people manage their stress, emotions and energetic bank balance.  These are her top five self care tricks to beat overwhelm.

Avoid the 3 P’s

When you feel the stress hormones start to flood your system, anchor your mind on constructive thinking by steering clear of the 3 Ps. The 3 Ps will rob you of any inner peace. They are:

  • Personalisation – thinking you are to blame… e.g. the kids are kicking off, it’s all my fault… I’m a bad mum… No, your kids are behaving like kids. There are lots of different variable at play. It’s going to be ok.
  • Pervasiveness – everything is awful! No, it’s just this journey that’s tough or this period of time or this one behaviour. Chunk it down and it will help you get a grip.
  • Permanence – it’s going to be like this FOREVER! Breathe, this could all change in an instant, or maybe it will be tough for a while, but it won’t be forever. Hang in there!

Shut down and reboot

Just like our computer needs a reboot every so often, so do we. Unplug yourself and take a minute to recharge by ‘earthing your brow’.  Think Homer Simpson saying ‘D’oh’… Bring the back of the hand to the forehead or rest your head in your hands. This is rebooting your nervous system. Take a seat at a table and rest your head on your folded hands for six slow, deep breaths. If you’re in full scale meltdown, get onto the floor and take a child’s pose. This will help.

Photo credit Abigail Read from the book The Self-Care Revolution

Pepper your day with micro moments of nourishment

Self-care needn’t take big chunks of time for it to be effective. Give yourself a moment where you set the intention to carve out some peace for yourself. For one minute, let the ‘to do’ list wait. Consciously scan your body and release any tension you find. Maybe take some shoulder rolls and shake out your hands and legs. Spritz some scent and take six relaxed breaths, relishing that the world can wait for you. When you breathe better, you feel better. We all have time for this kind of self-care and it is genuinely potent! Then re-enter the day with focus and vigour. You’ll get done what you can humanly get done and when that overwhelm starts to rise, repeat this exercise.

Break down your day into bite-sized chunks

Chunk down your day – don’t do it all in your head right now, that will fry any mummy’s brain. Tackle the task at hand right now and mentally leave the rest until it is required of you. Take it hour by hour or minute by minute when you have to. Break it down and things feel far more surmountable. And as you knock down all those individual tasks (so often unsung) repeat the mantra: I appreciate me. What you are doing as a Mother is incredible. Get good at reflecting on all you are achieving and see them for the true mini accomplishments that they are.

 Shake it off

When all else fails but on some feel good music and ‘shake it off’ in true Taylor Swift style. Music is an instant mood alchemist, as is movement. It can also distract the kids from their gripes. Have an impromptu dance party or karaoke session. Try something upbeat or seek out some classical if you need soothing. The Greatest Showman soundtrack will see me through the week…

Want to hear about more tips and tools to help find greater balance in your motherhood journey? Follow Suzy on Instagram @suzyreading where she regularly shares her wisdom and inspiration. Suzy is also part of a team of wellbeing experts who are planning to launch a new mobile app, Nourish, to support mothers with their emotional wellbeing.

For Background:
Suzy is a mother of two, a Chartered Psychologist, Yoga Teacher, and Health Coach. It was her life experience of motherhood colliding with the terminal illness of her father that sparked her passion for self-care which she now teaches to her clients, young and old, to cope during periods of stress, loss and change and to boost their resilience in the face of future challenges. Suzy is a contributing editor for Psychologies Magazine and the Psychology Expert for wellbeing brand Neom Organics. She figure-skated her way through her childhood, growing up on the Northern Beaches of Sydney, and now makes her home in hills of Hertfordshire, UK. Her first book ‘The Self-Care Revolution’ published by Aster, is out now.
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Main photo credit: Photo by Julie Johnson on Unsplash

About The Author

Ellie Thompson
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Editor of My Baba and blogger. Currently on the IVF journey, documenting the process step-by step in addition to exploring how to prepare your body for pregnancy, what foods we should be eating, and any technique going that will lead to that positive pregnancy result!

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